I find that naming expectations helps me avoid and resolve conflict. An unnamed expectation is an unconscious, unspoken, implicit "should" or "should not" hanging between myself and someone else. I'm not saying expectations are a problem—shared expectations are the essence of culture, and culture is what allows us to relate with one another easily and…
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I'm really liking a practice I've been doing: noticing what's about to be born. This works both alone and in conversation.
Alone, this practice goes with reminding myself that I don't know what I'm going to do next. Not knowing makes me curious about it. What actually am I going to do next? I start…
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Often, when I'm experiencing uncomfortable feelings and moods, I'm barely conscious of them. It's not that these feelings are subtle and hard to detect—at times they can be pretty intense and still be mostly unconscious. It is as if I am the feeling (as opposed to being aware of it). I make a practice of…
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Why do I rush? Often, it's because I'm trying to finish up something tedious I've been doing (so I can get to do something I actually want to be doing!) I want to get through the boring stuff so I can move on to the good stuff. The problem is, the good stuff never really…
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I had a life-changing moment in my early 30s. I'd just moved to a new city, I was lonely, and I was looking for people to hang out with. One Sunday morning, I was sitting in my car in the parking lot of a church I'd recently started attending, an hour after the church service…
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When I'm angry (that is, "triggered"), I'm often tempted to gain relief from my triggered state by protecting myself in some way—usually, by setting a boundary. The problem with this is that setting a boundary tends to be a unilateral decision that's unlikely to meet the other person's needs for care, consideration, connection, and inclusion—especially…
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(This piece is based on a journal entry of mine from January, 2009.)
The last couple weeks have been very challenging for me. I've been feeling anxious, off-center, low on energy, and afraid. Lots of things have changed in my life all at once.
Watching Everything Fall Apart
The nonprofit that I've been leading for…
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Dr. Nolan answers the question "How do I become a professional counselor?"…
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When we stop trying to control ourselves and others, what happens? Perhaps that depends on the extent to which we're resting in love. When we're resting in love, the distinction between ourselves and others evaporates. We start getting attentive to all needs that arise—both for ourselves and others.
When we stop trying to control, we…
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Counseling student at Southwestern College, explores his own gender, and which gender language best suits him. …
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Several times in the past, I've gotten excited about the latest spiritual practice I'm doing, and I've lost my sense of discernment about it. I start thinking "It's the best thing ever—everyone should be doing it!" I become a true believer, thinking it's the right thing for everyone; the world would just be a better…
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For me, the first step in having a great day is having a great sleep—and the first step in having a great sleep is preparing for sleep. I know I'm going to be asleep for about eight hours—and I know that the last hour or so before I go to sleep is a crucial time…
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There's a paradox: from one point of view, I am that. From another, you are not me. I believe it's important to remember both of these viewpoints.
Remembering "I am that" reminds me of the unity of all things. It reminds me that the entire universe is my body—so of course, I aspire to love…
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I value generosity on several levels:
On the physical or material level, generosity could take the form of giving money, food, shelter, etc.
On the emotional or heart level, generosity is about giving others my attention, love and compassion.
At the level of intellect, am I willing to share my ideas and perspectives? And…
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When I'm unhappy, it's often because I'm not getting what I want. What to do at a time like this? I might try identifying the needs behind my wants. Identifying my unmet needs can help me have more compassion for myself—but it doesn't shift me out of my self-enclosed, solipsistic state. It's easy to keep…
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I view my meditation practice as a process of surrendering to my "true self." (My true self is the same as your true self.)
Surrendering to my true self is related to the practice of doing nothing. Doing nothing doesn't mean that my mind stops or my body stops; it means that my personality isn't…
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So what's cool to do and see around here?
If you are like me, you are new to New Mexico and the Santa Fe area. Part of what drew me to come to SWC was the location. The moment I stepped into New Mexico for the first time I knew my soul was coming home!…
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Living in Santa Fe the hot springs in the area are of great interest. There are a bunch of great hot springs spas in the area, that I highly recommend spending a day at. These spas cost money and that can sometimes be a factor for whether or not we can spend a day to…
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CARES Act HEERF Report on Emergency Financial Aid Grants to Students (Click Here)
Southwestern College believes that everyone should have the opportunity to obtain their graduate degree regardless of their financial situation. As a college, we promote financial assistance opportunities in the form of institutional scholarships and Graduate Assistantships, federal financial aid, and by encouraging…
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This 2-year program
is designed for people who wish to complete all the coursework in eight quarters.
Federal Direct student loans do not cover all tuition costs.
Financial Example:
Most students who are enrolled full-time qualify for $20,500 (less the origination fee) in Federal Direct Student Loans each academic year, less if enrolled part or…
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This 3-year Counseling program plan
is designed for people who wish to work part-time while pursuing their degreeÂ
uses Federal Direct student loans to cover tuition costs
offers time to integrate the clinical learning with the self reflective aspects of the program
Financial Example:
Most students who are enrolled full-time qualify for $20,500…
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This 2.5-year Counseling program plan offers students
time to integrate the clinical learning with the self-reflective aspects of the program
Federal Direct student loans to cover most of the tuition costs
an opportunity to work part-time and study primarily full-time
Example:
Most students who are enrolled full-time qualify for $20,500 (less the origination…
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by Kate Latimer, LPCC
Before investing in the 2-3 years of academic coursework needed to complete a graduate degree, students need to know what their job prospects will be upon completion. After the devastating effects of the 2008 financial crisis that left many degree-holders unemployed, colleges have seen a national trend of lower enrollment in…
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